The Simultaneity of Life
Mom’s to-do lists represented the
simultaneity of life: Order Howie’s
headstone, decide whether or not to begin radiation, join the gym and actually start going, and, most
importantly, what happened to our
Girl Scout Cookies?! One task that dragged
on for weeks was deciding what would go on Dad’s headstone.
I think this was partly because in addition to grieving the loss of Dad
she was also, in a sense, mourning her own death, which was becoming more and more real.